Cooking and Cleaning

For most people, cooking and cleaning qualify more as tasks or chores than something very enjoyable for themselves, especially cleaning.  However, a great many couples take this “unpleasant” task and turn it around into something that is a connecting and appreciated moment together. 



  • Putting on music and dancing and/or singing
  • One person rubs the other shoulders as they wash the dishes
  • One person reads to the other while they do the cooking or cleaning
  • Taken as a time to do the task together and talk about their day and tomorrow (like Grumbles and Gratitudes), without drifting into the realm of conflict or planning logistics, so that the time is primarily centered around meaningful, appreciated connection.


Principal Purposes Served

  • Create stable touchstones
  • Help to accomplish tasks
  • Emotional money in the bank
  • Foster nurturing, affectionate, loving contact